This is a little journal entry I made on OKCupid.
Sometimes I get a little frustrated with OKC chat. I had it off for years (yeah, no comments on the years part mkay?). I feel like it is almost impossible to get to know someone in a text message, or a chat window. Not impossible. It’s just chat. And ‘chat’ as a word does not bring to mind life altering ideas and conversation. It brings to mind awkward conversations in the smoking area or standing in the frozen food section with melting ice cream.
I spend my life away from home and I know meaningful internet communication is possible. Maybe I’m stuck in the past. Five years ago when texting cost people money. But if you want to get to know me. Write me. Write me about your day. Write me about why you decided to write me. Write me about picking a goddamned wall color.
I have heard many times and you have read in many profiles (statistically, you probably even write in your own) that you hate writing about yourself. I mean, so do I. But it is a necessary evil. And does writing to all of us that you don’t like it make you sound like someone we want to talk to? But you gotta. We are right now trying to stand out as not just strangers on the internet, but interesting people that are worthy of real, live, make-me-a-part-of-your-life attention.
A lot is lost in text and even more in a chat window. I won’t take it to texting until I’m sold you are someone I want to know. After you’ve maintained my attention with letters on OKC, then maybe you’ll get my actual email address. Some success there will probably find us meeting in person. Then comes the number. The number is a hard fought reward. The number signifies, you might need to get a hold of me quickly because our plans have changed and even more importantly, we made plans. It isn’t, a means to get to know me.